Posts Tagged "shame"

To Risk or Not to Risk

Posted by on Mar 22, 2015 in Identity, Therapy

To Risk or Not to Risk

"What did I know of life? I who had lived so carefully? Who had neither won nor lost, but just let life happen to him? …Who avoided being hurt and called it a capacity for survival?" Julian Barnes, The Sense of an Ending

I’m sitting at the computer, wondering how to get into this topic. The room is quiet. I glance at my phone, half hoping for a distracting text...

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Puppy Training: New Year’s Lessons from our Puppy

Posted by on Jan 12, 2014 in Relationships, Self-Care

Puppy Training: New Year’s Lessons from our Puppy

“Over the years I've come to appreciate how animals enter our lives prepared to teach and far from being burdened by an inability to speak they have many different ways to communicate. It is up to us to listen more than hear, to look into more than past.” Nick Trout, Love is the Best Medicine: What Two Dogs Taught One Veterinarian about Hope, Humility, and Everyday Miracles

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Secrets

Posted by on Jun 18, 2013 in Self-Care, Trauma

Secrets

"Silence bruises the heart." Elizabeth Rosner, the speed of light

"Please find a way to safely speak your truth because the healing process cannot begin until you do... it is absolutely possible to heal and get your life back." Wade Robson

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Self-Acceptance: A Different New Year’s Resolution

Posted by on Jan 9, 2013 in Identity, Self-Care

Self-Acceptance: A Different New Year’s Resolution

"If you would see yourself reflected in the mirror of awareness the way you see your face reflected in the looking glass… exactly as it is without the slightest distortion or addition, and if you observed this reflection without any judgment or condemnation, you would experience all sorts of marvelous changes… It is this nonjudgmental awareness alone that heals and changes and makes one grow." Anthony de Mello, The Way to Love; The Last Meditations of Anthony de Mello

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Lost Girl: Sex and the Need to Please

Posted by on Sep 20, 2012 in Identity

Lost Girl: Sex and the Need to Please

"She’s been everybody else’s girl, maybe one day she’ll be her own." Tori Amos, "Girl"

Sarah curls up in the chair, sunlight glinting off the top of her bent head. She can’t look at me. "Did you want to do it?" I ask. "No." "Then why did you?" "I thought I had to. We had already started, and I knew that’s what he expected. I didn’t want him to be mad."

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